Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Letter to my younger self

Dear Mel,

Boy does it feel weird saying that. This is ME, writing to you from the future. So actually, this is really YOU and you have just turned 27!

At 17, you're simply known as Melisa. You think your name is boring and spelt wrong. Well the good news is, 10 years from now, you love your name! You even win a book in a slogan-writing competition about 'what's in a name'.

Right now, most people call you Mel. Even people you don't know - which is annoying! Everyone seems to have shorter names now - Jo, Jules, Fli, Jazz as opposed to Joanne, Julie, Felicia and Jessica. Maybe it's a KL thing. *shrug*

At 17, you look pretty miserable. Studying's a drag and you hate curfews and being perpetually grounded. Ten years from now, you'll have all the freedom and time in the world that you won't know what to do with yourself.

Standing up for what you think is right has got you far, but speaking in anger has led you into many hot soups. You still have not learnt to hold your tongue. But you'll get there I'm sure.

It's ok if you don't know what you want to be, because 10 years from now, you'll have a rough idea. You'll achieve your seemingly impossible ambition of being a writer and a designer but only one pays the bills! You still love doing both.

You also finally meet a guy that gives you butterflies in your tummy. You're with someone you love on good days and who infuriates you on bad days but there are still more good days than bad. It’s hard to see it at 17, but you'll actually go through a number of relationships and flings before finding him but you're very happy right now. You still have that check-list and he pretty much measures up. *yeay!*

Mel, one thing you gotta do is stop fretting about the hair! At 27, people love it and so do you! (well, most days.) You've learnt to embrace your curls and the only regret I have right now is not discovering the wonderful 'curl creme' from Boots sooner.

One advice I'd give to you is to take bigger risks. Stop being lazy and actually DO what you’ve set your heart to do... You’ve got tons of great ideas so take ACTION! And remember to speak up babe. You're still super soft sometimes.

You won't always be 'Miss-goody-two-shoes'. You're pretty feisty and you show some new colours at University and you begin to question if that's who you really are, but just hold on to your principles and always depend on The Big Guy and you'll be alright.

You'll also find out that people are cruel, guys are asses and girls are bitches. But you'll learn to sort out expectations and learn that some people become the rule while others you meet are the exceptions.

You're still labeled "Nice" but a few have seen and experienced a whole other you and claim you’re pure evil, which kind of balances up the niceness.

Wear anything you want, because you can! The three-colour rule is crap! Remember the bright pink shorts and Golfer tee and black boots phase… well that’s sorta back. Heh.

Keep Writing. And save all your work!!

Remember how good it feels to do a back-handspring/ a walkover? In a few years, that skill will be gone. However, all those sit-ups and leg-lifts they made you do at synchronized swimming training totally pays off! You don't develop a gut till ten years later. But that's cause you're pretty much a TV-watching lump right now. You should head outdoors more.

The closests friends you have right now are the ones who will stick with you. You're still friends with 'The Girls' from high school and they're part of the bestest things in your life. Their craziness actually keeps you sane and you're still all a bunch a mismatched hodgepodge of characters and you love them to bits!

You meet a new set of girls at Uni and you totally get the whole sisterhood thing. They help you through so much and know you inside-out and you'd be long gone if it weren't for them.

Remember how your little sister annoys the crap out of you? 10 years from now, she still does! She's still a brat but you love her to bits! You eventually make up for making her cry every day. On the bright side, she's now one tough nut!

Your family is still very loud and a little screwed up but they’re God-sent and you’re so blessed to have them. You have more patience now because of them. They’re irreplaceable. J

You and The Big Guy go through many many ups and downs and life’s been pretty much a whirlwind on this journey. But yesterday, after talking to an old friend, you realise you’ve grown, and it’s the bestest feeling ever. It feels like the world is painted in colours only you can see and it feels like there’s a song waiting to burst forth from you when you’re walking in the street. Life’s sometimes not what you picture it to be but you’re ok with that. You learn to pray for Joy every morning and that’s what you live on – sunshine and fresh air and all-surpassing Joy.

It might feel like a façade or a front you put on, but you push past the doubt and just KNOW that it’s Joy which comes from above. And it fills your God-space and you know – you’ll be ok.

Mel, even though you're convinced you might die young, and you're even sometimes a hypochondriac, you're very much alive and kicking at 27. You even love yourself more in a non-narcissistic kinda way, and have come to terms with being the little oddball.

You'll soon realise that people love you for exactly who you are. And babe, seriously, don't sweat the small stuff. You're still a worrywart and you get panic attacks so please take a chill pill.

Big hugs from your older (and wiser) self!

Melisa, The 27-year old

Monday, October 25, 2010

Find a Centre

This came as a pleasant surprise in my mail box this morning. A connection made - God sent for sure.

"Being spread thin is something that seems to happen more and more in the rush of daily life, running around getting things done for other people, all the little things that eat away at your time. And the big loss is not that of time, but of attention - the presence of the self to observe, experience and be aware of life. I think you must choose what is important."

Find a center.
A quiet space
A hidey-hole
behind closed doors where the outside world rages

and to look at it madly boiling away
blink of an eternity
with a mildly inquiring eye,
and watch,

that while
the world is the world is the world is all you ever have
you cannot own it or control it
wrap it or ride it
without first looking outside, and looking within,
finding the sweet strange splitsecond spot
in the center of the whirlwind.

Don't lose yourself.

Friday, October 22, 2010

Jaeson Ma - Love

It is good to be a woman:

1. We got off the Titanic first.
2. We can scare male bosses with the mysterious gynecological disorder excuses.
3. Taxis stop for us.
4. We don't look like a frog in a blender when dancing.
5. No fashion faux pas we make, could ever rival the Speedo.
6. We don't have to pass gas to amuse ourselves.
7. If we forget to shave, no one has to know.
8. We can congratulate our teammate without ever touching her rear end.
9. We never have to reach down every so often to make sure our privates are still there.
10. We have the ability to dress ourselves.
11. We can talk to the opposite sex without having to picture them naked.
12. If we marry someone 20 years younger, we are aware that we will look like an idiot.
13. We will never regret piercing our ears.
14. There are times when chocolate really can solve all your problems.
15. We can make comments about how silly men are in their presence because they aren't listening anyway.

Thursday, October 21, 2010

we all scream for ice-cream!!

So guess what! Geláre is finally open at e@Curve and its gonna be my new favourite ice-cream joint. :D
Geláre is an Italian word that means "to freeze" or "congeal" and this ice cream originates from Italy. Wow, that's my little 'public service-did-you-know' of the day. According to their site, they use all-natural ingredients with absolutely no artificial flavouring, colouring or preservatives.
I tried the Honey Malt Crunch and it is DIVINE!!
And what's best is.... somehow this hasn't triggered my stomach and lil ol' lactose intolerant me is absolutely fine! But of course - everything in moderation lah.

Monday, October 11, 2010

Music Monday: Lissie

Growing up in high school, I listened to Metallica and absolutely loved the song, "Nothing Else Matters". And I especially loved the version in the S&M album. We had a Live DVD/VCD version and I probrably watched "Nothing Else Matters" and "Enter Sandman" over and over again! I mean it's an amazing song. The guitar solos are orgasmic and ahh well you get the picture.

So anyways... I've always wanted to do a cover of them too. But it's been done like over fourty times maybe and I think even the Vienna Boys' Choir did a version of that song. But what I haven't really seen is a good female cover. That is... until Lissie. (No offense to Shakira. I'm sure her cover was great too!)

Apparently, Lissie has had her songs appear on Grey's Anatomy, House, The OC, SYTYCD etc. Well, check it!

Friday, October 8, 2010

The Gawkerverse

You guys HAVE to visit The Gawkerverse!
It's got beautiful pictures from dwellinggawker, foodgawker, weddinggawker and craftgawker.

It's amazingggg!!!!